If you are a parent you may occasionally and suddenly find yourself with 15, 20 minutes, or even a half hour of free time. As the realization kicks in that you've suddenly got the equivalent of 40 ounces of gold in time, your mind starts to race through your to-do list trying to find one or two things you can knock out in 20 minutes. What is most likely NOT on that list are things like, 'take a bath' or 'call a friend' or 'read.' In other words, things we like to call 'self care activities.' That is, activities that serve absolutely no purpose other than to calm your nerves, be enjoyable, and get you in touch with what makes you tick (reading, music, other hobbies?).
This article sums up how we confuse 'self care' by doing things that are not actually caring for ourselves, a la 'I'm going to sit down and enjoy a glass or three of wine." These types of non-care 'care' activities are needed, but in small quantities. What our bodies really really need as deprived parents is actual TLC. This list is a great start. So start brainstorming and think about what you would do for self care. And next time you find yourself with a magical 20 minutes on your hands, maybe instead of knocking off a to-do item, knock of a self-care item.
Read the full article here and let us know what you'd add to this list!