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The 10 Best Gifts for New Moms
 
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Finding the best gift for a new mom should be a relatively easy task, however if you find yourself looking for the perfect gift for the new mom in your life, you may find that most new mom gifts are actually geared towards the baby, not the mother. At Duo Diary, our postpartum wellness journals are designed with mom in mind. We know that moms need to take care of themselves first, but somehow, this notion is still an afterthought. That's why Duo Diary is much more than just a baby feeding diary - there’s a page for baby….and a page for mom.

The ‘page for mom’ is missing in almost all postpartum products, which are mostly primarily baby focused. Mom is completely missing from the equation. Giving moms permission, access & tools to take care of herself is basically revolutionary at this point. So, we want to highlight other ‘revolutionary’ products that would make the best gifts for a new mom after she brings home a baby.

 

The 10 Best Gifts for New Moms

1. Postpartum Exercise Membership

There are a few women-led companies out there that are focused solely on helping women regain function after childbirth so that they can get back to their normal activities in a safe way. The catch is that most new mamas don't even know companies like this exist, so gifting a new mom with a membership (all programs are online and done at home) to one or more of these companies is a great way to ease her back.

Restore Your Core

Mutu System

Momma Strong

Abs, Core and Pelvic Floor by Natalie Hodson

 

2. Motherbees

An LA-based company, Motherbees offers LA- local food delivery focusing on foods for healing from childbirth like soups, teas, recovery and more. And for those who aren't local to LA, Motherbees founder Heng Ou wrote "The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother" filled with recipes and traditions and "the lost art of caring for a mother after birth" (available on Amazon).

 

3. Postpartum Subscription Boxes

Since subscription boxes are a thing these days, we're happy to see that some companies are taking 'pregnancy' subscription boxes into the 4th trimester. Many companies now offer boxes JUST for a new mom:

Alively

The Stork Bag

Ecocentric Mom

Bump Boxes

NaturAli

 

4. Mama Glow Glow Time Collection by Good Medicine Beauty Lab

New moms are often concerned about what they eat, but did you know that what you put ON your body is important, too? Aside from feeling incredibly luxurious and decadent, this line at Good Medicine Beauty lab was created just for mamas, and is safe for pregnant & nursing women.

 

5. Bone Broth Herbs

There's a reason the Motherbees book (#2 on this list) has lots of broth recipes- bone broth is warming, feels nurturing, grounding, and calming at a time when a new mother needs it most. Urban Herbs is upping the bone broth game through their Nourish The Mama herbs that can be added to bone broth, using a blend of Chinese herbs thought to help women recover from childbirth. Make sure you check with your healthcare practitioner/doctor before using these herbs. (And if you gift this to a mama, please, make the broth for her!)

 

6. Meal Delivery Service

Nourishment is so important for new moms, but making a healthy meal is damn near impossible when you have a newborn. Enter meal delivery services. Getting a new mom a gift card to any meal delivery service (NOT meal kits which require the mom to actually do the cooking) can often be EXACTLY what a new mama needs. Yes, you could just bake a lasagna, but lasagna isn't healthy or nourishing and many meal delivery services offer options for dietary restrictions and meals that can be truly healthy for a new mom. Try using The Google Machine to find local deliver services in your area that cater to moms (like Motherbees in LA or MaMeal in Chicago). Otherwise, consider gift cards to Doordash, Grub Hub, or Munchery.

7. Earth Mama Organics Postpartum Line

We love seeing companies that create products just for mom, and Earth Mama is a well known company that makes natural and organic products. While they have a large line of products for baby and pregnancy, they also have a postpartum line, made just for the new mama. 

 

8. Postpartum Doula

A new mom needs help, in any form, of any kind. Wondering what kind of gift to get a new mom? Consider gifting a gift card or certificate to a local postpartum doula, whose role is to help support the whole family's transition- not just focusing on baby. They may do a range of tasks from light housekeeping, meal prep, baby support, lactation support, to help with siblings. Find one in your area here

 

9. Postpartum Kits

Etsy is full of creative kits made with products to help soothe and nurture a new mom. You can find a plethora by simply searching for "postpartum" in Etsy, but here are a few:

SweetGum Botanicals

Plainville Homestead

Green Earth Naturals

 

10. Duo Diary Postpartum Journal

There are a million apps and baby journals out there that help new parents track all of their baby's feedings and diapers, but none of them take mom into account. Duo Diary knows how intimately intertwined mama and baby are, and we also know how common it is for new moms to lose track of her own health while she adjusts to focusing so much on baby. That's why our journals are designed with ample space for new moms to make sure they are healing OK, that they are getting the care they need, that they are eating, sleeping, drinking water, and other basic needs that seem to go out the window for new moms (showers, anyone?). We also offer an entire Resources area just to help mothers navigate the postpartum period and our blog is full of information like exercise for new moms, healing after childbirth, and interviews with cutting edge mama focused companies like Mothering Arts and Birthfit. You can buy our journals in the original one month journal or our new 3 month journal or 1 year pack. Go here to purchase one for the new mom in your life.

 

What are your favorite gifts to give a new mom? 


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An Interview With: Mothering Arts
 
 

One of the central reasons why Duo Diary was created is to give new moms a space for self care in their newly-upended lives. Bringing home a baby is transformative, and in our society, new mothers are pushing themselves through grueling schedules and to-do lists, often without breaks for themselves to heal and be nurtured. This is all too common the case especially when a woman should be healing after childbirth- not judging herself or trying to do it "all." Duo Diary aims to change this by giving women a space to take care of herself in our journals, and by also highlighting companies that are helping women nurture themselves. When we stumbled upon Mothering Arts we knew we had found something special. Founded by Kerry Ingram, Mothering Arts is dedicated to helping new mothers thrive through in-person mothering circles, group leader training, online courses, and a wonderfully calming and supportive blog with activities and downloads to help new moms tune into self care ideas. With a focus on the wellness of mom and baby in her mothering circles, Kerry acknowledges that when a woman brings a baby home, she is at a time of immense need and support in her life. Mothering circles are a wonderful place for a woman to feel nurtured, talk to other moms, and well, feel like she is serving her new mom wellness. This month, we talked with Kerry to find out more about Mothering Arts and how they can help women like you. Read more about Mothering Arts below.

 

For our readers who may not know, could you please describe/explain what exactly Mothering Arts is?

Mothering Arts is a warmly designed training for women who believe in the power of community uplifting and nurturing the postpartum year. Our online group leader training supports women to confidently create local classes for mamas and babies.

 

How did you conceive of Mothering Arts?

Great question! I had been working as a Waldorf early childhood educator for many years before becoming a parent for the first time. Something I noticed in the school community was a general feeling of isolation and self-judgement from the parents. They were so hard on themselves! I started to practice the art of acknowledgment and to simply notice something about each parent at drop off each morning, it was well received by all. Many mornings I baked fresh muffins to share with parents as they dashed out the door, which were also well received.

When I became a parent, I fell into the pitfalls that I witnessed for so many years and was beating myself up all the time for not doing things "right" or "good enough". 

I joined a local parent and child class which was lovely, and very focused on the babies while the sleep deprived mamas were barely hanging in there. We wanted to feel nurtured so we could nurture our babies, some of us missed our own parents, we wanted to talk, share questions and cry, and we were hungry! In that moment I really understood the importance of a parent feeling well supported to be able to give freely to the needs of her child.

That night, pen went to paper and dreams sparked into reality. My tiny living room was the location of our first group of 5, and now over 70 mama-baby pairs have been meeting locally for nearly 6 years.

I created Mothering Arts as an answer to an old question, while tending to a need that my friends and I shared as new parents. After the local class was growing and growing, a friend asked if I would be willing to share my model and plan... and the Mothering Arts group leader training was born!

 

In what ways do you hope to help new mothers?

I think the way I try to support new moms most is through acknowledgement, listening and nurturing. Parents know their baby more intimately than anyone else, but so quickly we give away our wisdom and power to the advice of blogs, websites, books and other "professionals". We have so much to learn from each other, and from our special relationship with our child. I want to empower mothers to cultivate their unique art of mothering that aligns with her values and wishes for her child. Mothers need to feel heard and seen, the transformation into mother is extraordinary and should be honored in the eyes of her community. I also love to prepare nourishing foods and be hands-on with baby rocking, mama shoulder rubbing and delivering a cup of warm tea.

 

Can you explain or describe some of the offerings and tools Mothering Arts has for new mothers?

I think our local groups are the best tools we have, because that heart to heart connection can not be replaced through the internet. That being said, we do offer a few online classes, LOL, the irony. Our group leader training is my heart's work, finding the women in each community who feel called to work with this tender population and weave the webs of community.

We offer a Healthy Home Rhythms ($40) self guided course for families who would like to create a simple and balanced flow to everyday life. Folks love the step-by-step plan and the lovely printables in this course.

Our Mothering Arts Collective course is a monthly subscription ($30/month) that offers oodles of resources on how to align with your values, create your family culture and make moments that truly connect us as a family. This course is self paced through the month with a thriving and warm community of over 100 moms from all over the world. It's an active group with lots of support and sharing.

And of course our group leader training for those who feel inspired to nurture mamas and babies in her community.

 

What usually brings a mother to Mothering Arts?

In person: mothers want community. They want to answer the door with messy hair, dishes on the counter and know the person who walks in is there to be real. She wants to cultivate a community of deep connections and feel totally welcome to come as she is.

Our group leaders want to be a part of the change rewriting the story of how the postpartum year is observed in our culture. Our leaders are devoted to making space to slow down, to honor and create a community of support of new parents.

 

What do you wish more women knew about the postpartum period or the transition to motherhood?

It's ok to ask for help. Your mothering journey will not look like any one else.

 

What have you learned from some of the women you've worked with?

Each mother is an artist sharing an outer expression of an inner feeling. We are all so unique.

 

Where can our readers find out more and connect with Mothering Arts?

www.motheringarts.com

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Black Friday Roundup: The Best Black Friday Deals for Moms
 
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It's Thanksgiving weekend, and you know what that means - it means in most cases, all you mamas have likely been busy prepping for Turkey Day here in the US (why do we know this? Because kin keeping), but we’re hoping you get some time to yourself this Black Friday. No, not to start checking off items on your family’s shopping list (cough kin keeping cough) but for YOU. Yes, YOU. What’s Black Friday without some good Black Friday Sales meant to help new moms in new motherhood, right? So here are the best Black Friday sales for moms- sales from companies that we love because they support postpartum moms in helping them to heal, feel good, or are just practical. Sales that have nothing to do with your partner or your baby or anything else but caring for yourself. The bonus? All of these companies are women-led. Happy shopping!

 

Duo Diary Black Friday Sale

Part of Duo Diary’s mission is to help women take charge of their health and to demand better care for themselves postpartum. To celebrate all you do, we’re giving you 40% off all orders now through Cyber Monday. Simply shop and save using code BLACKFRIDAY at checkout.

 

Good Medicine Beauty Lab

If you follow us on Instagram you may recall recently seeing a post about Good Medicine Beauty Lab’s new collaboration with motherhood maven Latham Thomas called Glow Time, safe for pregnant & nursing mothers. This line (along with a lot of their other nurturing, self-care inducing, natural, icky-free products) are on sale for 40% off for their Gratitude Sale (that has a much better sound than “Black Friday Sale” doesn’t it?) Simply use code “Gratitude” at checkout.

 

Mutu System

As an affiliate, it's no secret that we love Mutu and are so excited to see that Mutu’s programs are 33% off from Black Friday- Cyber Monday. Mutu System’s programs are a great resource for proper exercise and healing issues like diastasis recti for postpartum women (of any age or no matter how “post- the partum” you are); Use code BF33 to get discounts. 

 
 

 

Life in Play Company

Despite every new mom’s best intentions that she’ll never carry a diaper bag and will just use her favorite, fashion-friendly bag, reality sets in pretty quickly that your favorite trendy handbag can't handle the new load of stuff once the baby comes. And let’s face it, diaper bags typically look and feel shlumpy and those are words no new mom wants used to describe something she is wearing. Not feeling like yourself is a big deal for new moms, and small things like being able to wear your own clothes or use your own handbag sound trivial but can make a big difference in keeping a sense of normalcy in your now-upended life. Enter Life in Play Company, who created a simple-yet-genius idea to create a diaper bag insert that slips right into your favorite handbag. Enjoy 35% off your entire order using code SAVEBIG

 

Restore Your Core

There are a few different programs out there geared towards helping new moms heal their physical bodies after having a baby. Restore Your Core is another program aimed at helping to empower new moms to feel better.  It's a 12 week program made up of functional exercises aimed at healing your core after having a baby. The program is on sale now through Cyber Monday. (No code needed, just shop!)

 

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Confused About Postpartum Symptoms? This Can Help...
 
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When you have a baby, you at some point become privvy to all the postpartum secrets that no one talks about- you know, what happens after giving birth. Conversations with other new moms are dominated by diapers, sleep, breastfeeding, nipple shapes (yours and the bottle’s), and mostly, all the postpartum symptoms that are now part of our new normal (like diastasis recti).

Or are they?

Common or Normal?

Recently, I was talking with a girlfriend who had a baby. She nodded in knowing recognition as I described pelvic girdle pain symptoms (also known as SPD or symphysis pubic dysfunction) and suddenly we were comparing brands of postpartum belts (I can assure you, postpartum belts were not in our vocabulary before having a baby). Like lots of new moms busy and focused on taking care of their new baby, she brushed off her symptoms and hoped it would go away. Luckily for her, it did.

Lots of women out there experience some really common symptoms that get ignored- by themselves or by their doctor. It’s as though we are led to believe that common means it’s normal. But most of the time, postpartum symptoms are not normal.

Take my friend. She was told she’d “just had a baby and it would go away.”

It’s also part of why Duo Diary was created, so that women can start to demand better care for themselves after they have a baby. Postpartum symptoms shouldn’t just be “a new normal.” They should be addressed. Just because lots of women experience symptoms after having a baby doesn’t mean it’s normal (remember, common ≠ normal). It actually probably means that in America, we’ve got a massive problem caring for postpartum women.

Dr. Google to the Rescue?

My friend and I talked about how we spent hours googling our issues, hoping to find any blog or website that would a)explain what it was and b)how we could make our symptoms go away. Depending on the symptoms, sometimes we could find answers and sometimes we couldn’t.

In my case, I began keeping notes in my first Duo Diary ‘prototype’ (= a notepad) about my symptoms, when I experienced them, what triggered them, what seemed to make them feel better. I googled the patterns I noticed in my notes, and finally marched into my OB’s office one day armed with my Duo Diary and a list of potential ailments I thought it could be. She patiently went over each one with me, listening as I rattled off symptoms that I had jotted down and the potential ailments Dr. Google had found. This helped us pinpoint specific issues that were getting overlooked.

How to Take Charge of Your Health

After that appointment, my OB gave me a prescription for a women’s health physical therapist (also called pelvic floor physical therapy) and I finally started to get the help I needed. (You can find a PT in your area through the links on our Resources page).

This is when I realized the power of journaling for postpartum women. The hard fact is, there isn’t a great safety net for postpartum women in the US, so it is up to us and those around us to be our own safety net. Is it unfair? Yup. But that’s why products like Duo Diary exist (and also why we love promoting other women-led companies that are just for mom)- to help us moms be our best, healthiest, and happiest selves. 

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5 Ways This Ancient Technique Can Help You After Having a Baby
 
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Up until recently, the whole world was obsessed with doing everything online - there is literally an app for everything - and the idea of writing things down seemed downright archaic. Pshaw, who writes with...pen and paper?

But lately you may have noticed, the good ol' pen and paper are making a comeback. The benefits of journaling are well documented, Bullet Journals are all the rage, walk into any Target or even Anthropologie and you'll see stacks of guided journals for everything from lists to worry journals to walls and walls of Moleskines

It's a thing now, in case you didn't know.

Why Writing Things Down is Making a Comeback

Apps are great and all, but it seems people are realizing that when things are put into an app, they stay there, hidden away in your phone. 

Not so with journaling.

Journaling has been around for thousands of years, from Roman Emperors to Middle East and ancient East Asian cultures. The health benefits of journaling are well documented, helping to improve everything from blood pressure to sports performance. 

It's also one of the easiest, most important things you can do for your health after you have a baby. Here's why:

How Journaling Can Help You Postpartum

  • Writing things down may help with memory recall and information processing. So, you know, when your pediatrician starts to drill you about the number of dirty diapers your kid has had in the last 24 hours you might actually remember, despite not having slept for 3 months.

 

  • Journaling is known to help anxiety, depression and other mental health issues. Since postpartum depression and anxiety affect a reported 11-20% of women who give birth each year (that's 600,000 women per year according to the CDC, and those are only the reported cases), journaling is something new moms should definitely consider doing.

 

  • Journaling may help with physical pain. Researchers believe that it can help strengthen your immune system. Given the sheer physical load a woman's body goes through in pregnancy and childbirth (and recovery and breastfeeding), regular journaling may have a profound affect on your physical wellbeing after having a baby.

 

  • Food journaling is shown to help aid in weight loss. And for moms who are dying to feel like themselves again, this can be a huge help. If you are a breastfeeding mom, writing down what you are eating can also help pinpoint potential food sensitivities (like dairy) that may be affecting your baby through breastmilk. 

 

  • It helps "clear the field." A simple to-do list or action items can get all the thoughts swimming around in your head out and onto paper, freeing up that mental space for all the other mental loads of parenthood.

I know what you are thinking, who the hell has time to write in a journal between poopy diapers and spit up duty? The good news is journaling doesn't have to be all or nothing - a few minutes or seconds here and there throughout the day can have big effects. So grab your Duo Diary and get writing - it's one of the easiest things you can do to feel great after having a baby. 

This blog pro­vides gen­eral infor­ma­tion and dis­cus­sion about med­i­cine, health and related sub­jects.  The words and other con­tent pro­vided in this blog, and in any linked mate­ri­als, are not intended and should not be con­strued as med­ical advice. If the reader or any other per­son has a med­ical con­cern, he or she should con­sult with an appropriately-licensed physi­cian or other health care worker.

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5 Mommy Must-Do's After Having a Baby
 
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Here in the United States, we are enamored with pregnant women. There are salves, creams, workouts, massages, drinks, foods and a whole slew of other products all geared towards the pregnant woman. Pregnancy and a pregnant woman's self care is a $266.6 million dollar industry. As it should be. There should be a ton of products and services available to make a pregnant woman's life easier and more comfortable, because despite the images of glowing pregnant women we are fed in magazines and in the media, pregnancy can be really, really hard and uncomfortable.

And then. Then you have the baby.

And this all goes away.

It seems that in our society, when a woman has a baby, she is left a little bit to fend for herself. The next industry is all about baby- nursing pillows, nursing cookies, bottles, swings and other devices, but there really isn't an industry that is focused on a postpartum woman's self care. Sure, she gets a 6 week checkup, but that number is arbitrary and often is the ONLY stop on the self care train for a postpartum woman. 

This gap is one of the HUGE reasons why Duo Diary was created. A new mom shouldn't have to fend for herself after bringing a child into the world, whether through birth or adoption. Bringing home a baby is a massive upheaval physically and mentally. At Duo Diary, we aim to help this transition be a little bit easier by encouraging new moms to take care of themselves. We also recognize a few areas of care that can help a new mother immensely in those early weeks and months. In fact, a Duo Diary can be a great compliment to some of these services. 

The catch? These all cost money. A lot of money. And are not covered by most insurance. Which is why most moms -even those that can afford it - don't splurge on services like this. In our view, these should be a given, not a special treat for those that can afford it. (Heck, most new moms probably don't even know these things exist!). But the below services can really help a new mom get on the right track with her health. So if you are looking for a unique shower gift, consider gifting one of these services (along with, of course, a year's supply of Duo Diary!) 

1. A Postpartum Doula

Postpartum Doulas help new mothers with the transition into motherhood by supporting a new mother with things like breastfeeding, bonding with baby, help and guidance with the new baby, and many even offer light housekeeping and will run errands. You can find a postpartum doula in your area (if available) here

2. An IBCLC

Breastfeeding is really, really hard. It can be a massive struggle for many women, physically and emotionally. An International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLC) can help a new mom navigate this process by teaching them techniques, checking latches and looking for tongue ties or other potential issues, and providing support in helping a new mom succeed at breastfeeding. Find one here.

3. A PostPartum Exercise Program

A new mom has very specific changes that have occurred to her body that also need to be healed properly- jumping right into a 'regular' exercise program as soon as you get the clearance to exercise just isn't a good idea as it can exacerbate conditions that may have arisen during pregnancy and labor, and don't address the structural changes that occur to a woman's body. There are quite a few exercise programs out there that are geared specifically to postpartum women and healing issues like pelvic floor function and diastasis recti. Mutu System, Restore Your Core, The Tummy Team, Hab It, and Fit2B are all programs dedicated to helping a postpartum mom heal. You can contact these companies about purchasing a gift program for a new mom. 

4. Moms Groups

Moms groups can help with the transition into motherhood by giving a new mom a safe place where she can discuss concerns, experiences, learn, and connect with other women having the same shared experience. This is especially vital and helpful for new moms that don't live near family. Many moms groups are offered at your local 'pumping and feeding' store, churches, hospitals, schools, or other places. Here's a great article on what they entail and how to find one.

5. A Pelvic Floor Specialist

Let's get real, your pelvic floor takes a beating during pregnancy and labor, and it is also one of the most important structures for your daily function. News flash: leaking and peeing when you sneeze or exercise are NOT NORMAL and CAN BE FIXED. Easily. Enter the pelvic floor physical therapist. A pelvic floor physical therapist helps 'retrain' your pelvic floor to function properly and can often address issues that affect other areas (like your hips or diastasis). You can find one here, or refer to this article

What services do you wish you'd known about when you had a baby?

This blog pro­vides gen­eral infor­ma­tion and dis­cus­sion about med­i­cine, health and related sub­jects.  The words and other con­tent pro­vided in this blog, and in any linked mate­ri­als, are not intended and should not be con­strued as med­ical advice. If the reader or any other per­son has a med­ical con­cern, he or she should con­sult with an appropriately-licensed physi­cian or other health care worker.

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5 Mommy Must Haves

As a first time mom, it's hard to know what products out there really work to make your life easier, and which ones don't. A lot of moms end up registering for a bunch of stuff that they never use, and as the months go on they realize that the things they use the most are the things they never registered for. So here's a list of the top baby products you'll wish you'd known about before bringing home baby!

Most babies and toddlers hate having their nails clipped or filed and this product will solve all of your nail woe issues. A battery-operated device with various file stages (i.e. softer file for when your baby is tiny and the nails are softer, a harder file for a they get older). Simply turn it on and place it on the nail, this little doo-hickey does all the work for you in half the time. 

This is the water bottle that you'll notice is ubiquitous in mommy groups and playdates during the period when your child is learning how to drink out of a sippy/straw cup. It's the only cup we found that holds up to being thrown around a lot and is toddler-tested to not leak. 

Once your baby starts sleeping, you'll pretty much do anything to keep things going that way, one of which is introducing a sound machine. Some sleep books say to introduce a sound machine to help your baby fall asleep. We say introduce a sound machine so that your baby will stay asleep. This sound machine is amazing at keeping random outside noises less jarring. 

This is the single greatest invention, ever, in the history of the world. OK maybe not, but anything that buys you a little extra sleep each night is worth it, and these diaper liners, which adhere to your baby's diaper (like a maxi pad) absorb extra wetness, keeping your baby comfortable and dry for longer at night (translation: they'll sleep longer).

Baby Logs and Journals

Baby logs can be a lifesaver for many a new mom, as learning how to breastfeed and/or pump can be overwhelming. Most new moms are also suffering from severe sleep deprivation, which is way more than just a cliche- sleep deprivation can make it hard to recall basic details like how long ago you fed your baby, which side you fed on, how many ounces they had in a bottle, or how many wet and dirty diapers your baby has had- all important questions the pediatrician asks at each well visit. Having a readily-available notebook like a Duo Diary can help a new mom keep track of all of this- with Duo Diary being the ONLY journal that also includes the mother's health! (Here's more on how baby logs can be helpful)

What are your mommy must haves??

Here's to Feeling Good....


This quote really spoke to me- I think this is especially the case in postpartum women who may chalk up their symptoms as 'normal' (or, as in many cases unfortunately, they are told this by their healthcare practitioner). If you aren't feeling well (mentally or physically) please ask your OB/GYN for referrals -from women's health physical therapists to mental health professionals who specialize in postpartum health, there is a network of help out there! Check out our Resources page for more help!

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Breastfeeding in Public: 5 Steps to Nursing With Confidence While on the Go
Breastfeeding on the go

By Elizabeth Peters

While the decision whether to formula feed or breastfeed is a mother’s personal choice, it is estimated that 75% of new moms choose to breastfeed their newborns, with many making the choice to breastfeed exclusively. But breastfeeding exclusively comes with its own sets of issues, one of which is that you are your baby’s one and only source of food, meaning you have to be available for a feeding whenever your baby needs one, even when that time may not always be the most convenient for you – such as when you are out in public. Many women cringe at the thought of nursing in public, with strangers around, and that is understandable - but locking yourself at home for four months to avoid having to breastfeed in public isn’t healthy for you, either. The fact is, nursing mothers are going to find themselves in situations where they have to be in public with their baby during feeding time, but nursing in public doesn’t have to be a scary experience. First, know that you have the legal right to nurse in public, by law, and that nursing mothers are exempt from indecent exposure laws. Most states have laws that give nursing women the right to nurse in public at any place that the mother and child have the right to be, which covers most all public places. You can see a full explanation of the breastfeeding laws surrounding your state online here. Even with the protection of the law behind them, many women find themselves cringing at the thought of nursing in public for the first time. If the thought of breastfeeding in public has you coming down with a case of the jitters, follow these five simple steps to becoming able to breastfeed in public with confidence.

Pick a Spot in Advance

When breastfeeding in public, odds are you will be somewhere that you are familiar with or frequent often, such as the coffee shop where you meet up with friends, or the grocery store where you buy your groceries. To make your feeding experience more comfortable, and to ease your mind, when you are at these places look around and decide where you would be most comfortable feeding, such as a booth in the back, a bench tucked into a corner of the store, or a dressing room in your favorite department store. Knowing in advance that you have a comfortable spot available for nursing will help ease your mind about going to those places with your baby when you may need to feed.

Dress for Success

Dressing in clothing that provides easy access for feedings with minimal exposure can go a long way toward making you feel more confident during public feedings. Button up and wrap around shirts work well for this, or you can purchase nursing blouses made with hidden built-in flaps made specifically for breastfeeding.

Use a Mirror

If you are nervous about exposing too much skin while breastfeeding in public, practice breastfeeding your baby in your selected blouse while standing in front of a mirror so you can see firsthand how exposed you will, or won’t, be. Practice different positions until you find one that you are comfortable using in public. Seeing firsthand what the public around you will be seeing can go a long way in easing your nervousness about public feedings.

Bring a Blanket

Baby blankets work great as a covering to shield your feeding baby from the view of passerby. Carry one in your diaper bag and lay it across your shoulders and over your baby’s head when breastfeeding in public.

Stick to Your Feeding Schedule

Don’t deny feeding your baby in public at his scheduled feeding time just because you’re too nervous or you are busy at that moment. The hungrier your baby becomes, the more fussy and loud he will get, which will not only draw a lot of attention when you finally do stop to feed him, and it will also make the experience much more stressful than it needs to be for both of you. It is best to find a quiet, semi-secluded spot and feed him at the right time when you will both be calm and relaxed.

Remember that practice makes perfect. Breastfeeding in public may seem scary at first, but follow these steps and after completing a few public feedings you will be breastfeeding in public like a pro!

Elizabeth Peters is a freelance writer who specializes in the parenting/family niche. When she is not writing for clients she can be found blogging about parenting on her own blog at TheMommyVortex.com. She currently resides in Alabama with her husband and two young children. Connect with her on Twitter: @themommyvortex

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Pssst.... Breastfeeding is Hard!!

I recently stumbled upon an older HuffPo article, but wanted to share as the message is still ever so true. It is a common misconception that breastfeeding is easy (or "free"), which can leave a bad taste in the mouths of moms who struggle or have struggled with it. Maybe breastfeeding was once easier when women lived in close proximity and shared in the knowledge of new motherhood and breastfeeding, but nowadays a new mom is mostly sent home with little or no instructions. So, in the interest of self-educating what the real deal is with breastfeeding, I give you:

10 Things I Learned The Hard Way About Breastfeeding

(via Huffington Post Parents)

We'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic. What did you learn the hard way about breastfeeding?

23 Self Care Ideas

If you are a parent you may occasionally and suddenly find yourself with 15, 20 minutes, or even a half hour of free time. As the realization kicks in that you've suddenly got the equivalent of 40 ounces of gold in time, your mind starts to race through your to-do list trying to find one or two things you can knock out in 20 minutes. What is most likely NOT on that list are things like, 'take a bath' or 'call a friend' or 'read.' In other words, things we like to call 'self care activities.' That is, activities that serve absolutely no purpose other than to calm your nerves, be enjoyable, and get you in touch with what makes you tick (reading, music, other hobbies?).

This article sums up how we confuse 'self care' by doing things that are not actually caring for ourselves, a la 'I'm going to sit down and enjoy a glass or three of wine." These types of non-care 'care' activities are needed, but in small quantities. What our bodies really really need as deprived parents is actual TLC. This list is a great start. So start brainstorming and think about what you would do for self care. And next time you find yourself with a magical 20 minutes on your hands, maybe instead of knocking off a to-do item, knock of a self-care item. 

Read the full article here and let us know what you'd add to this list!

Mastering the Art of Self Care

When most of us think of 'self care,' we think of having an hour to watch Real Housewives of Whatever City, peruse Facebook, and just zone the f out. But is this really the kind of self care our bodies need? Especially as caregivers? Obviously, the answer is no. This article has some fantastic tips for what self care really means (hint, it doesn't involve your TV).

Read the full article here.