By guest blogger Yana, creator of Morskap, A Postpartum Health Site. You can find out more by visiting morskap.com
In the course of incubating a new human, I discovered a sea of helpful (though not ideal) resources on how to become pregnant, surviving pregnancy and labor, and taking care of a new human who is limited to a binary means of communication (to cry, or not to cry, that is the question). What I felt missing was a resource specifically focused on postpartum recovery.
Having gone through the biggest bodily and emotional change of my life, I had lots of questions:
How long before I heal given my mode of delivery?
What exercise can I do in the meantime?
What special postpartum exercises (kegels?) should I do and when? Are there helpful equipment for that?
Which things will never go back to normal?
What’s the most flattering and comfortable clothes to cover this beast in?
Is it normal to feel [choose your own adventure]? Is it normal to still feel that? How about now?
OMG breastfeeding! So painful and everyone talks about it as if it’s wonderful and beautiful. Can I skip it? Is it taboo to even ask?
How do you best split parenting responsibilities with my partner?
What are some things to think about when going back to work?
What emotions to expect around all of the above issues?
Some of these questions I’ve talked with other moms about, but I found that the answers varied based on things like preexisting health, how each pregnancy and labor went, the personality of the mom, her partner, and the baby. I live in a city where women often don’t have children until they feel like they are in a good place in their careers. So my network of moms wasn’t large enough to cover each possible scenario. Some things I just wasn’t comfortable discussing in person. In the beginning, I didn’t feel like talking with anyone. I felt like I didn’t have the time to do it. Searching for answers online seemed like a good idea, but it turned out to be too time consuming. There was sooo much noise!
So I created a consolidated resource for questions around being a new mom: morskap.com. This resource explains why new moms may be sweating a lot at night, why running may not be a great idea if experiencing pelvic pressure, and lots of other things that I and some of my friends were curious about after birth. I thought that it may be helpful to other moms that don’t have the time or inclination to search for the best answers. New moms are grappling with caring for a little one, possibly trying to go back to work, and generally staying optimistic (remember: every fifth mom suffers from postpartum depression!).